#Coexistance and #Communication Part 2
#Speech and #Actions

In my last write up on this subject, we had seen 4 possibilities about Coexistence and Communication – telling us how it should be.

Coming to think of it, this is a very easy method for assessing any situation.

This is called 2 dimensional analysis model. Wherein, we plot any 2 parameters on X and Y axis respectively. Then we draw 4 quadrants, and evaluate the situation as to “what it is” and “what it should be”

As we had seen in my last post
X axis had coexistence
0= Hostile Coexistence
10= Peaceful Coexistence
Y Axis had Commmunication on it
0= No Dialogue
10 = Joyful/loving Dialogues
And then we had seen the 4 possibilities arising out of it.

To Many a times I find that there is a lot of difference between the speech and actual actions of the couples.
And many a times, that is the reason for the discord.
So this time, let’s plot
Speech on X Axis
Wherein
0= insulting / hurtful/sarcastic speech
10= loving and caring speech
And Actions on Y Axis
Wherein
0= Not doing anything/or doing things without really caring about what the other partner wants
10= Doing things lovingly and willingly by understanding your partner’s mind

1.#lovingspeech and #lovingactions
As I had mentioned in my last post
“The husband and wife are really appreciative of each other’s efforts and achievements. Even if the lady is a housewife, the husband is full of praise for her as to the way she has aesthetically decorated the house – the way she lovingly caters food to everyone’s taste. And the lady also looks at her husband with starry eyes for the hard work that he puts in for the well-being of the family”

2. #loving speech and #No Actions
Either the husband or a wife is a complete sweet talker.No actions, simply words.
But either they have hidden agendas and ulterior motives, Or they’re completely lazy and want to cover up by sweet talking.
If the partner is tolerant of such behaviour, well and good, else this might lead to remorseful feelings such as “wasting your life for wrong people”

3.# Harsh Speech and #Loving Actions
I have seen such interactions mostly between a Mother in Law and a Daughter in law.
Many a times, the husband is posted somewhere out of station, and the parents of the pregnant wife are settled in some far away small town. So, the Mother in Law swings into action, religiously accompanying the Daughter in Law. Making sure that care is being taken and all the instructions that I give are being followed. Their speech might be a bit stern – but the affection in their actions is beyond words.

4.#Harsh Speech #Hostile Actions
Do I really need to explain this?
All I can say is, after the doctor’s visit, they are shortly going to need to visit the lawyer as well.

Once again I reiterate
Do I need to tell separately as to which quadrant you want to belong?

Dr. Shalaka Shintre Shimpi
M.D. (Obstetrics and Gynaecology)